dating with
the anxious attachment
Stop feeling clingy, needy, and insecure while dating and learn how to get calm, get clear, and ask for what you need.
ONLINE Weekend Workshop
JANUARY 27 & 28, 2024
11:00 - 4:30 pm EST
anxious.reinventingdating.com
does dating make you feel a little crazy?
listen, I GET IT.
For years, I cried to my friends that I didn’t know if love was out there for me, because I seemed to love harder than the people I was dating.
Which always left me constantly disappointed, frustrated, & alone.
Which is the opposite of what I wanted to be.😂
I felt like I was always the one who was doing all the work...
- Pulling people along.
- Overcompensating & overthinking.
- Making sure they were comfortable when I was just trying not to lose my shit half of the time.
Basically begging & hustling for love.
It sucked.
But I wanted love
so badly that
I would always end up trying to save tortured souls who seemed to drink too much, had crazy exes, bosses who hated them, & have been dealt a bad hand in life.
I would make so many excuses for them to my friends, family & myself to justify staying when I was miserable.
But heartbreak after heartbreak, even I couldn’t hide the fact that I was choosing unhealthy people in hopes that I could swoop in and help them fix their lives so they would see my worth, love me, and stay FOREVER!!!
I’m coming to save you!
so i pretty much just assumed there was something wrong with me, i was unlovable
& just gave up
for a bit...and then decided to actually figure out what the hell was going on & i learned about attachment styles.
and suddenly
everything
made sense!
- Why I was always worried they were going to leave.
- Why I would lose my shit waiting for texts & calls.
- Why I always felt like I loved them more than they loved me.
Why I was a reasonably normal & stable person most of the time until I started liking someone...than all bets were off.
But once i understood how my anxious attachment style was sabotaging the fUck out of me, i was able to get out of my own way & create a
super happy & healthy relationship!
That’s me!
Have we met yet?
I'M KIRA!
A sweary podcaster, certified coach, & healthy dating educator from Madison, WI.
I’ve spent the last 15 years helping singles learn the mindsets & skills so they can date to get into relationships they actually want.
And now i teach singles how to date smarter & with more intention so they can build relationships that work, feel good, & keep going!
SO, let’s check if you are an anxious attachment?
Have you ever been guilty of:
- Calling or texting your partner repeatedly until they respond
- Frequently checking social media for information on them
- Feeling suspicious when everything is calm
- Going along with whatever your friends want to do even if you don’t feel like it
- Having a hard time saying “no” even when you feel you should
- Repeatedly asking your partner if they find you attractive or still like you
- Trying to avoid breaking up by all means even when the relationship isn’t healthy
- Waiting days to text back to “get back at” someone who upset them
- Flirting with others to make their dates/partner jealous.
if this is
your response
keep
reading!
SO ASK YOURSELF HOW MUCH EASIER WOULD DATING FEEL IF:
you know exactly what to ask for TO CREATE A relationship so you Don’t HAVE TO WONDER IF IT IS TOO MUCH OR TOO NEEDY.
you know how to calm yourself so you don’t sabotage it by
getting demanding, clingy, or lash out.
YOU have strategies in your back pocket to choose wisely, ask for what you need, & have even the toughest dating convos.
welcome to DATING with AN anxious attachment
A small group online workshop to learn the knowledge, mindsets, & skills to go from clingy to confident in your dating life.
JANUARY 27 & 28TH, 2024
11 AM - 4:30 PM EST
QUICK FACTS
WHO is this for?
Any person over 21 who wants to work on their anxious attachment with a small group up to 15 people.
(All pronouns welcome.)
what is this?
Two day live online interactive workshop with healthy dating & relationship educator & coach, Kira Sabin.
when is IT?
Saturday & Sunday January 27 & 28th, 2024
11 am - 4:30 pm EST
on the zoom app.
THE WEEKEND WORKSHOP INCLUDES:
TWO DAY LIVE ONLINE WORKSHOP
WITH SCIENCE-BACKED INFO, ACTIVITIES,
Q & A, DISCUSSIONS, & A GAME SHOW!
easy to use
PRIVATE PORTAL
WITH PRE-WORK, RECORDINGS, & BONUSES!
TAKEAWAY WORKBOOK
WITH RESOURCES, SCRIPTS, QUESTIONS, STRATEGIES, & TEMPLATES.
AFTER THE
WORKSHOP YOU WILL:
Know the difference between wants, needs, & neediness so you know what is fair to ask for in a new relationship.
Have scripts & strategies to be able to ask for what you need & set basic boundaries.
Know how to spot unavailable people so you can walk away quickly before you attach and get too far in.
Learning healthy coping & self-soothing techniques to calm yourself to make clear & smart decisions.
DEEP DIVE INTO OUR WEEKEND
1
SATURDAY MORNING
Welcome, guidelines, & intros.
Attachment Style 101 - Understanding attachment theory & where it comes from.
How anxious attachment sabotages us while dating & we don’t even know it.
2
SATURDAY AFTERNOON
Too much? Needs vs wants vs neediness & how to tell the difference.
Spotting emotional unavailabilty in the wild. So you can walk away.
Anxious Attachment Jeopardy! Game Show
3
SUNDAY MORNING
Feelings vs Emotions - what’s the difference & why it matters.
Processing tough emotions skill learning & practice
Healthy coping skills for tough times.
4
SUNDAY AFTERNOON
Realistic dating strategies & timelines for anxious daters.
Basic boundary practice for dating & new relationships. With scripts & templates.
Final discussion & takeaways.
ALL MY WORK IS BS FREE. IT IS:
1.science-backed information
This isn't weird game-playing, manipulative behavior to "attract the person of your dreams..." by pretending you're someone else.
Everything I teach is backed in science, research, positive psychology, & tested in my own relationship. Or I don't teach it.
If everyone doesn't feel good, seen, heard, & empowered, then your relationship isn't working on the level it could.
This work is to CREATE the BEST relationship possible for everyone involved. Man, woman, straight, queer..everyone deserves love & respect.
3.EASY to learn
& apply
All of the information I teach has been broken down to bite-sized pieces so you can not only learn the information, but also apply it to your life. Which is the whole point of learning.
Through challenges, checklists, scavenger hunts, & even game shows to make it fun in the process.
This stuff works!
PAULA, OH
“The lessons that I learned & applied lead me to find a love that I never dreamt possible.”
OLIVIA, IL
"For the first time ever I felt excited instead of terrified before the date and didn't feel the need to be anyone but myself"
krista, ca
"You won’t regret showing up for you and the relationships in your life!"
HERE’s WHATS INcLUDED:
- Pre-work for our weekend in your portal (available January 12th)
- 2 days of live interactive workshops with Kira & a group up to 15.
- Resources with scripts, templates, & printables to remember & practice everything you learned.
- Full video recordings & slide decks to go back for reference.
PLUS THESE AWESOME BONUSES
2 MONTHS OF
RD PODCAST
MEMBERSHIP
(over 300 episodes)
DISCOUNTS TO FUTURE WORKSHOPS & COACHING
CALMING & SOOTHING PEP TALKS FOR
BEFORE DATES
JOIN NOW FOR
ONLY 15 SPOTS AVAILABLE
PAY IN FULL
$299
PAYMENT PLAN
$150
2 payments
30 days apart.
WHY WORK WITH ME
1
Small group & community up to 15.
2
I love to teach through TV & movies, which makes this a lot more fun.
3
Healthy, positive psychology based information & activities.
4
I've been studying, coaching, & researching love & dating for 15 YEARS! I know my shit!
5
I’ll tell you things your family and friends won’t. Kindly & honestly.
6
9 years building my own healthy & happy relationship.
What if i’m not sure if i’m an anxious attachment?
If you read this page & it resonates...we’re good.
What if i have to miss part of it?
Although the ideal is that everyone is there the whole time, everything is recorded if you have to miss a bit.
Questions?
i’m in a relationship, can I come?
Absolutely. This is for everyone. HOWEVER, we will be looking at anxious attachment through the lens of dating & new relationships.
ARE MEN WELCOME?
Yup. This is for anyone who identifies with the anxious attachment.
Will i have to participate?
Yes. This is a small group so that you can be seen, heard, & supported in learning. I will ask people to be there & present.
what Kind of tech do i need to participate?
You will need access to zoom & solid wifi.