datE LIKE
YOU FUCKING
MEAN IT!
A one-day online workshop to learn healthy modern dating strategies, timelines, & mindsets that build relationships you actually want.
ONLINE group Workshop
may 18, 2024
11:00 - 5:30 pm EST
pat benatar was
not wrong... love is a
battlefielD.
And if love is a battlefield, dating is a minefield of:
- Tinder, texting & trust issues.
- Ghosting. Breadcrumbing. Zombieing.
- Friends with benefits & frustrations.
- Hookups, heartaches & hurt feelings.
- Speed dates. Blind dates. No dates.
- Cheating, lying & emotionally unavailability.
- Break-ups, set-ups & setbacks.
- Netflix and chill..?
Um. WTF is even happening out there?!
IN THE PAST 50 + YEARS gender roles & our relationships expectations HAVE TOTALLY CHANGED.
we don’t want the same relationships of our parents.
Now?
We ALL want more.
We want better!
We want true partnerships filled with love, support, laughter and trust.
But we don’t know how the
heck to get it.
When did the greatest
adventure of our lives turn into it a series of unfortunate events? 😂
But here’s the deal, Sugarpants-
THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT IS TOTALLY POSSIBLE.
we just never
learned how
to date to get it.
Have we met yet?
I'M KIRA!
A sweary podcaster, certified coach, & healthy dating educator from Madison, WI.
I’ve spent the last 15 years helping singles learn the mindsets & skills so they can date to get into relationships they actually want.
And now i teach singles how to date smarter & with more intention so they can build relationships that work, feel good, & keep going!
That’s me!
and I don’t just teach it...
i walk the talk in my
own relationship.
After a ton of self-work and research, I stopped doing all the weird, out-of-date shit that we’re told we should do, and put everything I had learned into practice, creating an amazing relationship at
41 years old.
This is us getting married in Mexico in 2018!
and BTW, our meet-cute is we met accidentally through a frienD at a bowling alley, got drunk on Sambuca, & made out by the dumpster
out back.
Super romantic, right?😂
SO, let’s check if “date like you mean
it” is a good match for you.
- Most of the stuff you learned feels old-fashioned and not relevant to the kind of relationship you want in 2024.
- You haven’t dating in a long time (or maybe ever) and are not sure how to even get started.
- You feel confused on new dating culture. Who should reach out, ask out, pay, and it’s making it feel harder than it is.
- You are single and frustrated by modern dating.
- You know deep down want love & a relationship but feel like you don’t know what you are doing.
- You keep meeting emotionally unavailable people & ending up hurt & frustrated.
- You recently got out of a relationship/divorce and have no idea even where to start.
raise your hand in the air like you just don’t care if this is you!
and keep
reading!
THAT’S ME!
SO ASK YOURSELF HOW MUCH EASIER WOULD DATING FEEL IF:
you knew exactly what to ask for TO CREATE A relationship so you DIDN’T HAVE TO WONDER IF IT IS TOO MUCH OR TOO NEEDY.
you knew how to spot emotionally unavailable people right away so you don’t waste
your time.
YOU had strategies in your back pocket to choose wisely, ask for what you need, & have even the toughest dating convos.
welcome to DATING like you fucking mean it!
A one-day online workshop to learn healthy modern dating strategies, timelines, & mindsets that build relationships you actually want.
next workshop is MAY 18, 2024
THE THIRD SATURDAY
OF EVERY MONTH
11 AM - 5:30 PM EST
DURING OUR TIME TOGETHER YOU WILL LEARN:
How to spot emotionally unavailable people quickly & easily & know if you should stay or walk away.
Rejection Resilience so you have the energy & tools to keep going & not take things so personally.
Wants vs Needs
(and what is fair to to ask for) in Dating & New Relationships without being needy.
Basic boundaries
to set in early dating.
(with scripts!)
How to have really good first dates
with safety tips,
smart first date questions, strategies & after date assessment.
DURING OUR TIME TOGETHER YOU WILL LEARN:
and a full 3 month healthy dating walkthrough
- first dates strategies
- Smart mindsets & expectations
- action date ideas
- questions
- guidelines
- scripts
- strategies
- sex timelines
- safety tips
and a full 3 month healthy dating walkthrough
plus these bonus takeaways!
Pre-date meditations, peptalks, mindsets, &
HYPE PLAYLIST
and post-date assessments for intentional success.
so you feel confident and ready!
QUICK FACTS
WHO is this for?
what is this?
when is IT?
Anybody (over 21) who wants to work on dating smarter.
(All pronouns welcome.)
One day live online interactive workshop with healthy dating & relationship educator & coach, Kira Sabin.
The 3rd Saturday of the month, EVERY MONTH.
The next workshop is
April 20, 2024
11 am - 5:30 pm EST
online.
THE ONE DAY WORKSHOP INCLUDES:
ONLINE WORKSHOP
WITH SCIENCE-BACKED INFO, ACTIVITIES,
Q & A, DISCUSSIONS, & A GAME SHOW!
easy to use
PRIVATE PORTAL
WITH PRE-WORK, RECORDINGS, & BONUSES!
TAKEAWAY WORKBOOK
WITH RESOURCES, SCRIPTS, QUESTIONS, STRATEGIES, & TEMPLATES.
AFTER THE
WORKSHOP YOU WILL:
Know the difference between wants, needs, & neediness so you know what is fair to ask for in a new relationship.
Have scripts & strategies to be able to ask for what you need & set basic boundaries.
Know how to spot unavailable people so you can walk away quickly before you attach and get too far in.
Learning healthy coping & self-soothing techniques to calm yourself to make clear & smart decisions.
DEEP DIVE INTO OUR WEEKEND
30 minute lunch break
SATURDAY MORNING
1
2
Welcome, guidelines & expectations for the day.
Needs vs Wants- Needs vs wants vs neediness & how to tell the difference. Personal vs relationship needs.
How to spot emotionally unavailable people quickly & easily and what to do when you spot them.
Rejection, grit & mindsets to not give up after disappointment.
SATURDAY AFTERNOON
3
4
Successful first dates- safety tips, smart helpful questions, & assessments
Healthy Dating Timeline for the first 3 months for dates, sex, information, & more.
Create your “Date Like You Mean It” personalized plan.
Final discussion, Q & A, & takeaways.
ALL MY WORK IS BS FREE. IT IS:
1.science-backed information
This isn't weird game-playing, manipulative behavior to "attract the person of your dreams..." by pretending you're someone else.
Everything I teach is backed in science, research, positive psychology, & tested in my own relationship. Or I don't teach it.
2.empowering for everyone
If everyone doesn't feel good, seen, heard, & empowered, then your relationship isn't working on the level it could.
This work is to CREATE the BEST relationship possible for everyone involved. Man, woman, straight, queer..everyone deserves love & respect.
3.EASY to learn
& apply
All of the information I teach has been broken down to bite-sized pieces so you can not only learn the information, but also apply it to your life. Which is the whole point of learning.
Through challenges, checklists, scavenger hunts, & even game shows to make t fun in the process.
This stuff works!
PAULA, OH
“The lessons that I learned & applied lead me to find a love that I never dreamt possible.”
OLIVIA, IL
"For the first time ever I felt excited instead of terrified before the date and didn't feel the need to be anyone but myself"
krista, ca
"You won’t regret showing up for you and the relationships in your life!"
HERE WHATS INCLUDED:
- Pre-work for our weekend in your portal (available April 5th, 2024)
- 1 days of live interactive workshops with Kira & a small group.
- Resources with scripts, templates, & printables to remember & practice everything you learned.
- Full video recordings & slide decks to go back for reference.
Can’t make the May Date?
Join a later workshop!
grab your date!
WHY WORK WITH ME
1
3
5
Kind & intentional work that is thoughtful to everyone.
2
Healthy, positive psychology based information & activities.
I’ll tell you things your family and friends won’t. Kindly & honestly.
4
6
I love to teach through TV & movies, which makes this a lot more fun.
I've been studying, coaching, & researching love & dating for 16 YEARS! I know my shit!
9 years building my own healthy & happy relationship.
What if I CAN’T MAKE
THIS DATE?
This workshop is the 3rd Saturday of every month. Just join the next date that works
What if i have to miss part of it?
Although the ideal is that everyone is there the whole time, everything is recorded if you have to miss a bit.
Questions?
ARE MEN WELCOME?
Yup. This is for anyone who wants to learn how to date better.
What is your refund policy?
This workshop is non-refundable because you get the recordings & workbook to watch later.
If you know you have to miss the date you signed up for, just let Kira know & we will move you to another date when you’re available.
Will i have to participate?
You can participate as much or as little as you want. No one is on camera, but you can use the chat to share & ask questions. Completely up to you.
what Kind of tech do i need to participate?
You will need access to zoom & solid wifi.